Aloofness in dating
From experience, I learned that true confidence isn’t exactly flashy—and won’t necessarily be obvious unless you know what you’re looking for.In fact, sometimes it’s easier to identify a deeply confident man by what he do, rather than what he does do. Don’t get me wrong—some games will always play a part in relationships. But there’s a difference between innocent, coy flirting, and actively manipulating your girlfriend’s mind.Thenceforth, I added confidence as a “must-have” on my checklist. I was treated better, respected more, and I learned more.If my head was whirling afterwards, it was only from the thrill and excitement of romance—rarely from pulling my hair out in bewildered frustration (which was the norm with my unconfident man).“Sometimes, an insecure guy will act distant because he fears if he gets too close his woman will know the ‘real’ him and not like him,” Chlipala says.Therefore, he’ll keep you at an arm’s length—staying aloof, being noncommittal.And the longer we knew each other, the more he also used —that spent way too much of her time upholding his fragile pride.
Often, they’ll either be unwilling to see that they can bring anything to the table—wallowing in self-pity—or they’ll overcompensate with cockiness and disproportionate bravado.Conversely, “A confident guy will be vulnerable—he can express his feelings and interest in you, even if he’s not sure yet whether they will be reciprocated.”Just because a confident guy might be willing to share his vulnerabilities, doesn’t mean he wants you around all the time.As Regina Bethancourt shares, space can be a really good thing for a relationship.Not only was his lack of confidence a cancer that ultimately destroyed our relationship, but it also left us both in a puddle of confusion afterward.Only after months of analyzing what the heck happened did I realize that I never wanted to experience that again.
Some such adventures to have with this sign could include watching a documentary, checking out a museum, spending an entire afternoon at a bookstore, going to a park to stare at the clouds while having a philosophical discussion and/or travelling abroad, to name a few.