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In most cases I've seen, one partner has hidden their attraction, whether from the start or after a failed courting attempt, and has been biding their time. And that's the benefit of a foundation of true friendship! I myself fell in love with a guy, and it started with just a friendship, I didn't find him at all attractive when we first met.
I've also seen it written by many psychologists on this site that *friendship* is the basis of a good romantic relationship.
With friends, you get along great and have lovely conversations, but finding someone you have a unique connection with--whether you share the same humor, frequent the same foursquare locales or both love "The Golden Girls"-- is what gets chemistry beakers boiling.
Attraction is that magic ingredient that makes your heart race when you get a text message from your sweetheart or what fills your stomach with butterflies whenever you see him at your doorway. no one ever announces "Ok, we've achieved successful Friends status and are now ready to proceed to whatever Step #2 is (dating/hooking up/going steady/being lovers/soulmates/marriage) -- in short, the infamous next level".
A boyfriend is actually a friend that you'd like to get kinky with as soon as possible.
I've found that the only real distinction between friend and boyfriend is the attraction factor.
This all sorta misses Eric Berne's point that "the essence of friendship is that there is no active Parental ego state under ordinary conditions.
That is, friends do not criticize each other in a Parent-to-Child way, although they may give each other advice." In other words, friends don't tend to unilaterally lay down the law on the other person the way parents do with their children.
Imagine you meet someone that you're not attracted to. Then the relationship is based on personal compatibility, not just sexual chemistry. Grace Cornish avers that romances that begin as friendships are more likely to succeed: "You're always kind to your friend. There's no respect if you become possessive and controlling." "If you have a genuine friendship, you're not going to pretend to be someone you're not so a person can marry you.
Then later, as some times goes by, suddenly, you begin to notice all these fantastic qualities about them that you didn't know existed, and boom! You're looking for your friend to get ahead by looking out for his best interest. Some people are on their best behavior until they cross the threshold. But your true nature will surface when you're a person's friend first.